I know I have spend the last 3 weeks talking about how blessings aren’t always what we typically call blessings. Blessings aren’t just a nice house and car with a healthy family. Blessings may be a sick child, that forces you to rely fully on God. It may be an empty bank account, so that when the bills get paid, you know it could only have been God.
Blessings are sometimes struggles.
After studying this topic, I think a blessing is best defined as something that draws you closer to God, and most agree that God focuses on the eternal and spiritual when He blesses us. So, as believers, we have to be a blessing.
No, I don’t want you to be the struggle that pushes someone to their knees. I don’t want you to be that kind of blessing. But we should be someone who points others back to Christ. We should be focused on the eternal and spiritual so that others find that focus too.
So how can we show eternal and spiritual blessings to others? How can we point others back to Christ? How can we be a blessing?
I am starting with the easiest but most powerful way we can be a blessing to others. And prayer will work in two ways. First, pray for revelation in what that person needs, spiritually – but physically too. Pray for God to show you ways to bless that person. Open the door to the Holy Spirit’s guidance (and then listen).
Always begin with prayer. God will reveal things that we never thought about and if we begin with prayer, I can promise, our good intentions will not be received with ill feelings (which I know is sometimes a fear.)
Secondly, pray for that person. If it is someone who you know really needs a blessing – who really needs God for this season of her life (and what season do we not need him?!?) – make that person a prayer priority. Spend time daily praying for her. And as you are led by the Holy Spirit, make your prayers known. Share that you are praying for her. Write out one of your prayers on a card and mail it to the person. Shoot, text it if you want to. If the moment presents itself, pray face to face with the person. Let them know you are supporting her through prayer. It makes all the difference.
James 5:16 says, “The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.” Our prayers have great power when we are in the right place with God. Don’t overlook that fact. And praying for others is a great way to use that power. On top of that, it’s funny how praying for others really begins to change us…
2) Support with Scripture.
One of my favorite things to do is to find a cute scripture graphic already created on Pinterest and just send it to the person in need. Technology is great in that we have so many different ways that we can reach out to someone. It only takes a few seconds to find an encouraging verse and pass it along. And you just don’t know, that may be the verse she needed at just that moment.
And with it being on technology, she will be able to look at it time and time again. It will be the perfect reminder. The Bible tells us that scripture is a living and breathing document, so we need to help encourage that scripture to live in the lives of others.
3) Call her.
I know that seems like a crazy idea here in the 21st century, but sometimes it nice to just hear a voice. Words on a screen are good but not the same thing. They just don’t have the same effect.
I know we may worry about catching her at a bad time or maybe she won’t answer. And that’s fine, she won’t answer. But I have also sent people a text in the past, just saying “Hey, I’d like to chat a minute. Call me when the time is good for you.” Then she will call, or again she won’t, but you are reaching out all the same.
You are living out the example Christ set before us through trying to encourage her.
4) Buy her a book.
I love to read, so yes, I assume everyone else loves books too. But in all seriousness, there is power in words. There is something about being able to hold that book in your hand and have the words on the page change your life. And if those words offer blessings and draw the reader closer to God, then that is perfect. It may require a little research on your part to find the right book, but you can do it and the Spirit will guide you along the way.
If you are just not into books (really?!? Can we be friends???) or you know that she is not either, then there are other options. Send her a great blog link or post (hint, hint). Send her a YouTube video of a great praise song. Or, send her the link to a great podcast. There are so many great ones out there. Again, this may require some research on your part. You may not just know the perfect podcast or song or blog, but if you start looking and read and listen a little, I know God will lead you to the perfect one.
If you are actively trying to encourage others to Christ, He is not going to let you down. He will lead you in the right direction.
5) Meet a need.
I will admit, this is the hardest one on the list – for me at least. But Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs says that certain things have to be provided and present before we can work on love and belonging, and that is so true.
And on top of that, meeting a need – an act of service – demonstrates the love of Christ. Jesus knew He had to feed the 5000’s before he could teach them.
So, think about what need it is that you could meet?
Food is always good, whether it be a home-cooked meal or a gift certificate to a restaurant. But don’t be afraid to think outside of the box. Pick up a few things and build a gift basket. Does she like coffee (why, yes, I do!), then get her a really pretty coffee cup with some fancy coffee.
For women especially, I think if you buy them anything pretty, they will appreciate it. As moms, we often fall into the all-things-practical trap and we forget we like pretty things too. It is nice to have things that are just pretty.
Offer to babysit. Drive her to the doctor. Take her out for a meal without kids. Maybe think about an overlooked need – or want – and see what you can do to help.
I know if you are like me, you can barely meet your own needs, much less help someone else but this doesn’t have to be an everyday occurrence. Maybe you try to do something once a month. That’s fine. You are making the effort and God will acknowledge your efforts and work it out for you.